Friday, October 8, 2010

A commentary, as I understand it.....

So after thinking a lot on what should the next posts be like, I came to a conclusion on why not write a terse commentary on Yoga. Mainly about what exactly it is, what are the different stages on the path of Yoga etc. The time is suitable for such posts as from tomorrow start the NAVARATRIS (9 auspicious nights). You can read about them here.



Here is the deal every day I will put a post about Yoga for the coming 9 days, starting tomorrow. But even before I start let me 1st share a wonderful analogy between Yoga/Spirituality and Sexuality. One of my friends talked about this and he made a lot of sense. Here is a gist of the discussion we had.

In a way the sexual path and spiritual path and are very similar. Remember when we hit teen age, the usual things do not interest us anymore. The toys, dolls, teddy bears are no longer exciting and we want to explore more. Here the game is played by the chemicals in body. Certain hormones are released and they  change our perception and the way of looking at the world in toto. 

Similarly on the spiritual/yogic path when all that other stuff that you thought will make you happy looses its charm we can start -:). You got into relationships, marriage, got the dream job, house, car, etc but still there is some emptiness. When you realize that one can derive transitory happiness from these means then begins the spiritual journey. A journey to put your happiness on self start not the one that will need crutches...-:). THis should not come from a state of denial but rather from a state of abundance and dispassion. As it is very easy to say I do not want that thing, a true seeker is the one who has everything but still does not get caught up in the charm.


Unbelievable, right!!! Not quiet though. The reason is, I stumbled upon the oldest text on Yoga (Patanjali Yogsutras) and the 1st line is - "AND NOW BEGINS THE DISCIPLINE OF YOGA". Just think on this, Patanjali such a great Yogi, started his commentary with the words - AND NOW. The only rational here is that you have tried all the other means and come to a conclusion experientially that none of them are making you happy. So now you can start with YOGA...-:). Smart Guy right.


Only difference is on this path instead of hormones it will be your awareness that will come into use. More the level of awareness more is the progress.


With this I will end the post and start the next one tomorrow.


Happy Navratri....
Anurag

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Jokes....

Just to lighten the day...



1. Husband: "Everytime I hit you, you never fight back. How do you manage your anger?"

Wife: "I clean the toilet seat!"

Husband: "How does it help?"

Wife: "I use your toothbrush!" -:).



2. An old man visits his doctor and after thorough examination the doctor tells him: "I have good news and bad news, what would you like to hear first?"

Patient: "Well, give me the bad news first."

Doctor: "You have cancer, I estimate that you have about two years left."

Patient: "Ooh No! That's awefull! In two years my life will be over! What kind of good news could you probably tell me, after this?"

Doctor: "You also have Alzheimer's. In about three months you are going to forget everything I told you."

3. John hoisted his beer and said: "Here's to spending the rest of my life, between the legs of my wife!"


That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night! He went home and told his wife, Mary, "I won the prize for the best toast of the night."

She said, "What was your toast?"

John
said: "Here's to spending the rest of my life, sitting in church beside my wife."

"Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!" Mary said.

The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner. The man chuckled leeringly and said, "John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary."


She said, "He told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come!"

Bye
A

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

A case for Marrying Older Women !!


Ever wondered why in a marriage the girl is younger (99% time). I tried to think on this with some reasoning, but it did not make any sense. In fact if you do the opposite i.e. girl is older than the boy it all fits in so well. The reason is because women live longer than men, on an average 3 - 5 yrs more. So for marriage the age of the girl should be more than the age of the boy.

Boys are less strong than girls. Men live for less years than women. That’s why, there are more old women than old men, more widows than widowers. If the average age for a woman is eighty, then the average for men is seventy-five. It is five years more. But why, why do women live more? The reason is a woman is capable of accepting more than a man. If a man dies first, the woman will cry, weep, suffer, but will be able to accept the fact and regain balance. But if a woman dies than it is difficult for man to regain balance and come out of it. Additionally, just think about carrying a child in the womb for 9 months and then delivering the baby is a lot of stress and requires strength; both physical and mental. Thus, nature has designed women to be more resilient and stronger than men.

Therefore, every man should marry a woman who is at least 3 - 5 years older than him. Then the balance will be perfect. Then they will die almost within six months of one another. But why has this not happened? Part of it has to do with the man's ego as a man feels a little weak if he is going to marry a woman who is older, more experienced, more knowledgeable than him. If the woman is older it also makes sense on other fronts as well because the woman needs to be more experienced as she is going to become the mother and take care of the house and raising the child.

What do u say? Time to reinvent the wheel.....^-^

LAter
A

Thursday, September 2, 2010

On the subject of Love and Relationships




It has always intrigued me as to why there is such a strong urge to be in a relationship or to get a partner (both short term and long term -:)). This made me probe into 2 questions:
1. Can a person live by him/her self.
2. Why as humans companionship is so important.
Why is it so difficult to live alone? Living alone, can lead to meditation or depression. Meditation when the hands are busy and mind is full i.e. lot of work to be done and a purpose in life, depression when you have enough time to think about lot of irrelevant stuff i.e. time coming at a premium. But still it does not solve the mystery 100%, there are people who have plenty of stuff to do, but still seek others. Why?


This made me realize that it is the oneness or boundlessness that we are seeking, there is something in us that feels insufficient the way we are right now. And so we want to make the other a part of ourself and expand. When this desire finds a physical expression it is SEX, when it finds an emotional expression it is LOVE and when it finds a mental expression it is GREED/AMBITION. But then again if boundlessness is what we seek for then is there a way to work for it directly; than use pseudo means which give a sense of pleasure but are not enough to give us what we want. One of the great mystics has put it in the right way " Trying t reach boundlessness through physical realities is like trying to catch the mirage in a desert".


The methods of union or experiencing boundlessness are many. Like - love, heightened awareness, yoga practises etc. Loving other person is one of the most pleasant ways at the same time very risky as with involvement comes entanglement. The reason why we love someone is because it gives a certain sense of happiness. But that feeling is transitory, sometimes we will be happy and at times angry and miserable. Same goes with SEX. So in short all these methods allow us to become temporarily blissful. Kindly, note nowhere I am saying that they are good or bad or right or wrong, the point I want to make here is that there should be a way to be blissful 24*7. Yoga and meditation are a step in that direction. Not that they will take you to this state but are a vehicle for the journey.


Bottom-line is " If unbounded expansion is what you are seeking in life, then why not pursue it consciously. As if you seek it without awareness your life will go waste as you will do many stupid things that won't mean anything to you towards the end". What methods you choose will determine where you reach!!

C u later
A

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

How will you measure YOUR LiFE.......




Hi,
I came across this beautiful article in Harvard Business Review by Prof. Clayton M Christensen. I am copying it here, read it and you will be amazed to see the parameters of success in life.

"Before I published The Innovator’s Dilemma, I got a call from Andrew Grove, then the chairman of Intel. He had read one of my early papers about disruptive technology, and he asked if I could talk to his direct reports and explain my research and what it implied for Intel. Excited, I flew to Silicon Valley and showed up at the appointed time, only to have Grove say, “Look, stuff has happened. We have only 10 minutes for you. Tell us what your model of disruption means for Intel.” I said that I couldn’t—that I needed a full 30 minutes to explain the model, because only with it as context would any comments about Intel make sense. Ten minutes into my explanation, Grove interrupted: “Look, I’ve got your model. Just tell us what it means for Intel.”

I insisted that I needed 10 more minutes to describe how the process of disruption had worked its way through a very different industry, steel, so that he and his team could understand how disruption worked. I told the story of how Nucor and other steel minimills had begun by attacking the lowest end of the market—steel reinforcing bars, or rebar—and later moved up toward the high end, undercutting the traditional steel mills.
When I finished the minimill story, Grove said, “OK, I get it. What it means for Intel is...,” and then went on to articulate what would become the company’s strategy for going to the bottom of the market to launch the Celeron processor.
I’ve thought about that a million times since. If I had been suckered into telling Andy Grove what he should think about the microprocessor business, I’d have been killed. But instead of telling him what to think, I taught him how to think—and then he reached what I felt was the correct decision on his own.
That experience had a profound influence on me. When people ask what I think they should do, I rarely answer their question directly. Instead, I run the question aloud through one of my models. I’ll describe how the process in the model worked its way through an industry quite different from their own. And then, more often than not, they’ll say, “OK, I get it.” And they’ll answer their own question more insightfully than I could have.
My class at HBS is structured to help my students understand what good management theory is and how it is built. To that backbone I attach different models or theories that help students think about the various dimensions of a general manager’s job in stimulating innovation and growth. In each session we look at one company through the lenses of those theories—using them to explain how the company got into its situation and to examine what managerial actions will yield the needed results.
On the last day of class, I ask my students to turn those theoretical lenses on themselves, to find cogent answers to three questions: First, how can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career? Second, how can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? Third, how can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail? Though the last question sounds lighthearted, it’s not. Two of the 32 people in my Rhodes scholar class spent time in jail. Jeff Skilling of Enron fame was a classmate of mine at HBS. These were good guys—but something in their lives sent them off in the wrong direction.
As the students discuss the answers to these questions, I open my own life to them as a case study of sorts, to illustrate how they can use the theories from our course to guide their life decisions.
One of the theories that gives great insight on the first question—how to be sure we find happiness in our careers—is from Frederick Herzberg, who asserts that the powerful motivator in our lives isn’t money; it’s the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements. I tell the students about a vision of sorts I had while I was running the company I founded before becoming an academic. In my mind’s eye I saw one of my managers leave for work one morning with a relatively strong level of self-esteem. Then I pictured her driving home to her family 10 hours later, feeling unappreciated, frustrated, underutilized, and demeaned. I imagined how profoundly her lowered self-esteem affected the way she interacted with her children. The vision in my mind then fast-forwarded to another day, when she drove home with greater self-esteem—feeling that she had learned a lot, been recognized for achieving valuable things, and played a significant role in the success of some important initiatives. I then imagined how positively that affected her as a spouse and a parent. My conclusion: Management is the most noble of professions if it’s practiced well. No other occupation offers as many ways to help others learn and grow, take responsibility and be recognized for achievement, and contribute to the success of a team. More and more MBA students come to school thinking that a career in business means buying, selling, and investing in companies. That’s unfortunate. Doing deals doesn’t yield the deep rewards that come from building up people.
I want students to leave my classroom knowing that.

Create a Strategy for Your Life

A theory that is helpful in answering the second question—How can I ensure that my relationship with my family proves to be an enduring source of happiness?—concerns how strategy is defined and implemented. Its primary insight is that a company’s strategy is determined by the types of initiatives that management invests in. If a company’s resource allocation process is not managed masterfully, what emerges from it can be very different from what management intended. Because companies’ decision-making systems are designed to steer investments to initiatives that offer the most tangible and immediate returns, companies shortchange investments in initiatives that are crucial to their long-term strategies.
Over the years I’ve watched the fates of my HBS classmates from 1979 unfold; I’ve seen more and more of them come to reunions unhappy, divorced, and alienated from their children. I can guarantee you that not a single one of them graduated with the deliberate strategy of getting divorced and raising children who would become estranged from them. And yet a shocking number of them implemented that strategy. The reason? They didn’t keep the purpose of their lives front and center as they decided how to spend their time, talents, and energy.
It’s quite startling that a significant fraction of the 900 students that HBS draws each year from the world’s best have given little thought to the purpose of their lives. I tell the students that HBS might be one of their last chances to reflect deeply on that question. If they think that they’ll have more time and energy to reflect later, they’re nuts, because life only gets more demanding: You take on a mortgage; you’re working 70 hours a week; you have a spouse and children.
For me, having a clear purpose in my life has been essential. But it was something I had to think long and hard about before I understood it. When I was a Rhodes scholar, I was in a very demanding academic program, trying to cram an extra year’s worth of work into my time at Oxford. I decided to spend an hour every night reading, thinking, and praying about why God put me on this earth. That was a very challenging commitment to keep, because every hour I spent doing that, I wasn’t studying applied econometrics. I was conflicted about whether I could really afford to take that time away from my studies, but I stuck with it—and ultimately figured out the purpose of my life.
Had I instead spent that hour each day learning the latest techniques for mastering the problems of autocorrelation in regression analysis, I would have badly misspent my life. I apply the tools of econometrics a few times a year, but I apply my knowledge of the purpose of my life every day. It’s the single most useful thing I’ve ever learned. I promise my students that if they take the time to figure out their life purpose, they’ll look back on it as the most important thing they discovered at HBS. If they don’t figure it out, they will just sail off without a rudder and get buffeted in the very rough seas of life. Clarity about their purpose will trump knowledge of activity-based costing, balanced scorecards, core competence, disruptive innovation, the four Ps, and the five forces.
My purpose grew out of my religious faith, but faith isn’t the only thing that gives people direction. For example, one of my former students decided that his purpose was to bring honesty and economic prosperity to his country and to raise children who were as capably committed to this cause, and to each other, as he was. His purpose is focused on family and others—as mine is.
The choice and successful pursuit of a profession is but one tool for achieving your purpose. But without a purpose, life can become hollow.

Allocate Your Resources

Your decisions about allocating your personal time, energy, and talent ultimately shape your life’s strategy.
I have a bunch of “businesses” that compete for these resources: I’m trying to have a rewarding relationship with my wife, raise great kids, contribute to my community, succeed in my career, contribute to my church, and so on. And I have exactly the same problem that a corporation does. I have a limited amount of time and energy and talent. How much do I devote to each of these pursuits?
Allocation choices can make your life turn out to be very different from what you intended. Sometimes that’s good: Opportunities that you never planned for emerge. But if you misinvest your resources, the outcome can be bad. As I think about my former classmates who inadvertently invested for lives of hollow unhappiness, I can’t help believing that their troubles relate right back to a short-term perspective.
When people who have a high need for achievement—and that includes all Harvard Business School graduates—have an extra half hour of time or an extra ounce of energy, they’ll unconsciously allocate it to activities that yield the most tangible accomplishments. And our careers provide the most concrete evidence that we’re moving forward. You ship a product, finish a design, complete a presentation, close a sale, teach a class, publish a paper, get paid, get promoted. In contrast, investing time and energy in your relationship with your spouse and children typically doesn’t offer that same immediate sense of achievement. Kids misbehave every day. It’s really not until 20 years down the road that you can put your hands on your hips and say, “I raised a good son or a good daughter.” You can neglect your relationship with your spouse, and on a day-to-day basis, it doesn’t seem as if things are deteriorating. People who are driven to excel have this unconscious propensity to underinvest in their families and overinvest in their careers—even though intimate and loving relationships with their families are the most powerful and enduring source of happiness.
If you study the root causes of business disasters, over and over you’ll find this predisposition toward endeavors that offer immediate gratification. If you look at personal lives through that lens, you’ll see the same stunning and sobering pattern: people allocating fewer and fewer resources to the things they would have once said mattered most.

Create a Culture

There’s an important model in our class called the Tools of Cooperation, which basically says that being a visionary manager isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. It’s one thing to see into the foggy future with acuity and chart the course corrections that the company must make. But it’s quite another to persuade employees who might not see the changes ahead to line up and work cooperatively to take the company in that new direction. Knowing what tools to wield to elicit the needed cooperation is a critical managerial skill.
The theory arrays these tools along two dimensions—the extent to which members of the organization agree on what they want from their participation in the enterprise, and the extent to which they agree on what actions will produce the desired results. When there is little agreement on both axes, you have to use “power tools”—coercion, threats, punishment, and so on—to secure cooperation. Many companies start in this quadrant, which is why the founding executive team must play such an assertive role in defining what must be done and how. If employees’ ways of working together to address those tasks succeed over and over, consensus begins to form. MIT’s Edgar Schein has described this process as the mechanism by which a culture is built. Ultimately, people don’t even think about whether their way of doing things yields success. They embrace priorities and follow procedures by instinct and assumption rather than by explicit decision—which means that they’ve created a culture. Culture, in compelling but unspoken ways, dictates the proven, acceptable methods by which members of the group address recurrent problems. And culture defines the priority given to different types of problems. It can be a powerful management tool.
In using this model to address the question, How can I be sure that my family becomes an enduring source of happiness?, my students quickly see that the simplest tools that parents can wield to elicit cooperation from children are power tools. But there comes a point during the teen years when power tools no longer work. At that point parents start wishing that they had begun working with their children at a very young age to build a culture at home in which children instinctively behave respectfully toward one another, obey their parents, and choose the right thing to do. Families have cultures, just as companies do. Those cultures can be built consciously or evolve inadvertently.
If you want your kids to have strong self-esteem and confidence that they can solve hard problems, those qualities won’t magically materialize in high school. You have to design them into your family’s culture—and you have to think about this very early on. Like employees, children build self-esteem by doing things that are hard and learning what works.

Avoid the “Marginal Costs” Mistake

We’re taught in finance and economics that in evaluating alternative investments, we should ignore sunk and fixed costs, and instead base decisions on the marginal costs and marginal revenues that each alternative entails. We learn in our course that this doctrine biases companies to leverage what they have put in place to succeed in the past, instead of guiding them to create the capabilities they’ll need in the future. If we knew the future would be exactly the same as the past, that approach would be fine. But if the future’s different—and it almost always is—then it’s the wrong thing to do.
This theory addresses the third question I discuss with my students—how to live a life of integrity (stay out of jail). Unconsciously, we often employ the marginal cost doctrine in our personal lives when we choose between right and wrong. A voice in our head says, “Look, I know that as a general rule, most people shouldn’t do this. But in this particular extenuating circumstance, just this once, it’s OK.” The marginal cost of doing something wrong “just this once” always seems alluringly low. It suckers you in, and you don’t ever look at where that path ultimately is headed and at the full costs that the choice entails. Justification for infidelity and dishonesty in all their manifestations lies in the marginal cost economics of “just this once.”
I’d like to share a story about how I came to understand the potential damage of “just this once” in my own life. I played on the Oxford University varsity basketball team. We worked our tails off and finished the season undefeated. The guys on the team were the best friends I’ve ever had in my life. We got to the British equivalent of the NCAA tournament—and made it to the final four. It turned out the championship game was scheduled to be played on a Sunday. I had made a personal commitment to God at age 16 that I would never play ball on Sunday. So I went to the coach and explained my problem. He was incredulous. My teammates were, too, because I was the starting center. Every one of the guys on the team came to me and said, “You’ve got to play. Can’t you break the rule just this one time?”
I’m a deeply religious man, so I went away and prayed about what I should do. I got a very clear feeling that I shouldn’t break my commitment—so I didn’t play in the championship game.
In many ways that was a small decision—involving one of several thousand Sundays in my life. In theory, surely I could have crossed over the line just that one time and then not done it again. But looking back on it, resisting the temptation whose logic was “In this extenuating circumstance, just this once, it’s OK” has proven to be one of the most important decisions of my life. Why? My life has been one unending stream of extenuating circumstances. Had I crossed the line that one time, I would have done it over and over in the years that followed.
The lesson I learned from this is that it’s easier to hold to your principles 100% of the time than it is to hold to them 98% of the time. If you give in to “just this once,” based on a marginal cost analysis, as some of my former classmates have done, you’ll regret where you end up. You’ve got to define for yourself what you stand for and draw the line in a safe place.

Remember the Importance of Humility

I got this insight when I was asked to teach a class on humility at Harvard College. I asked all the students to describe the most humble person they knew. One characteristic of these humble people stood out: They had a high level of self-esteem. They knew who they were, and they felt good about who they were. We also decided that humility was defined not by self-deprecating behavior or attitudes but by the esteem with which you regard others. Good behavior flows naturally from that kind of humility. For example, you would never steal from someone, because you respect that person too much. You’d never lie to someone, either.
It’s crucial to take a sense of humility into the world. By the time you make it to a top graduate school, almost all your learning has come from people who are smarter and more experienced than you: parents, teachers, bosses. But once you’ve finished at Harvard Business School or any other top academic institution, the vast majority of people you’ll interact with on a day-to-day basis may not be smarter than you. And if your attitude is that only smarter people have something to teach you, your learning opportunities will be very limited. But if you have a humble eagerness to learn something from everybody, your learning opportunities will be unlimited. Generally, you can be humble only if you feel really good about yourself—and you want to help those around you feel really good about themselves, too. When we see people acting in an abusive, arrogant, or demeaning manner toward others, their behavior almost always is a symptom of their lack of self-esteem. They need to put someone else down to feel good about themselves.

Choose the Right Yardstick

This past year I was diagnosed with cancer and faced the possibility that my life would end sooner than I’d planned. Thankfully, it now looks as if I’ll be spared. But the experience has given me important insight into my life.
I have a pretty clear idea of how my ideas have generated enormous revenue for companies that have used my research; I know I’ve had a substantial impact. But as I’ve confronted this disease, it’s been interesting to see how unimportant that impact is to me now. I’ve concluded that the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched.
I think that’s the way it will work for us all. Don’t worry about the level of individual prominence you have achieved; worry about the individuals you have helped become better people. This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success."
Enjoy
A

Monday, July 26, 2010

Guru Poornima

Yesterday - 25th July 2010 was Guru Purnima. On this day, disciples offer gratitude or pay respect to their Guru (Spiritual Guide). Before I go any further lets be clear on a few questions:
1. What does the word Guru mean?
2. Why does a person needs Guru and
3. What happens when you get a Guru?


In sanskrit Gu means darkness and Ru means light. Guru is someone who dispels the darkness, darkness here is due to ignorance. So the job of a Guru is to bring you out of ignorance into the realm of knowledge and make you realize that there is so much more to life then the small cocoonish world we all live in. It is like a frog in a well who thinks that there is no world beyond this small space. Similarly, when there is ignorance the vision gets narrow and we are not able to see things in their totality. So in short, Guru is like a coach. The players in a soccer team have tremendous talent individually but it is the coach that brings the best out of the team. Similarly, when you get a Guru he makes you realize that there is so much to life than getting angry, holding grudges and taking revenge. You know your happiness is much more precious than all these things. Guru's job is to channelize the life force in us, just as water without banks is flood. But if the same water is flowed between banks it can be used to generate electricity. Similarly, when life force gets channelized all the other dimensions physical, mental, emotional and social are drastically improved. As at the end of the day life is nothing but a play of emotions, energies and outlook.
This year the Guru Poornima celebrations were in Hartford, Connecticut. We rented a car and drove from NYC to Hartford. The journey was pretty awesome and fun filled, we discussed a variety issues like operations of Armani Exchange to Karma and reincarnation. The event was in a Convention Center which was HUGE HUGE and very beautiful. The music, food, people were all great and I had a very good time. It was nice to see 5000 people from 50 different countries and different backgrounds come together in the spirit of celebration.

One of the few events not to be missed.......
Later
A


Monday, July 19, 2010

Structure of Life - Concluding PArt


Building on the Tree of Life from the lastpost. There are 2 worlds in which all of live -
1. Internal World
2. External World


The internal world consists of 7 layers of existence - body, breath, mind, intellect, memory, ego, self/soul. Where as the external world consists of 3 entities - people, situations, things. We may be with the best of people, in the most favorable situations and with nicest things; but if we are not happy from inside then all these are of no use. The point here is that the quality of our life is determined by the internal world not the external. I am not saying that you should dismiss the external world, I totally agree that they have their importance. But if they become the axis of life then it will be a problem.

Our mind has been conditioned to believe that life will be better only if I fix the outside (external). It is this misconception that is making you give so much attention to the outside and not pay attention to inside. But if you want to live life exuberantly, fully or change the way you live you should pay attention to inside i.e. attending to the source not the consequence, attending to the root not the flowers or fruits. As if the roots/source are taken care of the fruits/results will happen the way you want them to happen.

How do you define internal well being:
Disease free body,
Quiver free breath,
Confusion free mind,
Inhibition free intellect,
Trauma free memory,
Ego that encompasses everyone,
Sorrow free self/soul**.

Bye
A
** - Taken from a talk by Sri Sri Ravishankar in Wahington D.C, 2006.